A Zen friend I've been in and and out of correspondence with for the last five or so years made a comment in a recent e-mail similar to "I find it funny how you only contact me when you need something."
I found this hilarious myself. Because he is totally right. I come to him and his organization when I want something. What I am looking for is fellowship and camaraderie and peers, an opportunity to share my practice and experiences with others and in this particular case I am making efforts trying to expand that circle just a little bit wider, bringing the sangha jewel to those it has not been available to.
I also found it funny because the last time the above individual tried to contact me I was cut off from communication, deployed and in harms way, which I had posted notice of on the blog and the only contact I got from the zen friend mentioned above was one asking for me to post a link to his new digs on the internet.
It is funny how that mirror principal works. Those faults we find or characteristics we don't care for in others are so often just our very own.
I had a sort of falling out with this friend in the past over this very same thing. But I've gotten softer now.
I just smile, and hope that the lesson here serves as a reminder to my self and others to look closely at our aversions and find their root. Chances are that it is just you. Like a well looking back at a donkey our own reflection vex us.
Yours in practice,